That guy is still a man; he's not a man-child (i.e., an omega male).

But I know that sometimes I'm not very romantic and that comes across, and I also know men can get nervous and self-conscious too— almost like they're people or something. Unless something is time-senstive just message when you feel like it and don't go all Mac Gyver on why it took them seven hours and five minutes instead of of five hours and seen minutes to reply.

So I don't think there's anything wrong in being encouraging and straightforward. There's this really unfortunate trend of women being so scared of looking 'crazy' or like 'that girl' that they end up burying it if they're not feeling OK about something or want something.

Karen Salmansohn has some great advice, including such gems as, "don't shop for kiwis in a shoe store." Take that in two ways: (1) some people just don't have what you need, so quit banging at their door, demanding it, and (2) don't take advice from people who don't have what you need.

Don't take career advice from someone who doesn't have a job; roll your eyes when obese people lecture you about nutrition; and don't take relationship advice from single people (says the single person about to give relationship advice).

I love my single friends (as I love all my friends).

My single friends are so incredibly awesome that it is more on their behalf than on my own--I guess it's on our collective behalf--that I get indignant about singlism, and that I feel like the dudes who are not dating us are missing out.

I do not condone the description of such guys as "feminine," not that there's anything wrong with that.

Note also that I'm attracted to one such guy.] Okay, you can call that guy, but make sure that's what the issue is. At some point, even the shy guy is going to have to show some initiative.

I've retired the mom blog (mom's historic warm, fuzzy affirmations are still available in the archives (posts labeled 'mom blog' and, for the best of those, 'classic')).