Out of this you will begin to refine your list of must-have’s, nice to have’s and who cares/what was I thinking.

“As far as I’m concerned, our meeting wasn’t just about luck.

I believe that my period of proactive dating was the fuel that got me to the right time and place where we could find each other.

Be willing to forgo the idea of perfection and find a REAL man. ) Here are some action steps to get you started: • Get honest with yourself by getting to the core of your belief that there are no quality men. If you believed otherwise, how would it change your dating experiences? (Listen, I was the master of this, but finally learned how I consistently self sabotaged.

And when I saw it, and dealt with it, my life changed.

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Some things in life do get easier with age: such as knowing what you want and where you’re going and appreciating what will make you happy and what won’t.

The relationship didn’t work out but rather than putting her off her quest for love, this just made her look even harder. “We’d known each other vaguely for years,” explains Cherry.

“One morning we ran into each other in Waitrose and had a coffee together.

Yours will too.) Here are your action steps: • Write your list of qualities, values, and behaviors that attract you and that you expect in a man with whom you spend time.

• Review your list and decide: does this man exist?

When I adjusted my profile to reflect my authentic nature, I got fewer replies but I was amazed to find how many men turned up with the same interests as mine.” Their approaches were different, with Cherry relying more on personal ads and Lara preferring the internet but they both agree that “proactive dating” is the only way to find somebody suitable.