Remember, in order to have a fulfilling relationship with another, you must be content with yourself in your own right, as an individual.

You are instead and hopefully taking your time getting to know somebody absolutely wonderful before taking such an important step.

As to doing something "wrong," be assured that there aren't many variations on this wonderfully delightful theme.

You have the power and the strength within you to do it.

What is called for here is a quick reminder of the vows that every single one of us recited.

What I have actually found at the heart of questions such as these is a deeply held fallacy, a myth that has existed for far too long. Remember—the love that you have for your late husband will never ever go away. However, you are also not destined to remain in everlasting mourning, that is not why you are here.

Too many of you feel that by dating again or falling in love again or becoming intimate again, even though you are not really cheating per se, you feel as though you are either cheating on the life that you had with your husband or that you are diminishing or disrespecting his memory. You have already learned that: You Can Honor Your Past. If you choose it, living a life of abundance includes companionship, love, and yes, physical intimacy, which is an important and beautiful expression of that love.

Getting through the first year of losing your partner is a bit like a roller coaster. You might be plunged into the depths of despair at any given moment.

You may burst into tears in the supermarket when trying to work out what to cook for supper that night. Day by day, you start to get used to the practicalities of your new life as the realisation that your partner is not coming back really begins to hit home.

Never in a million years would I ever tell anyone, widowed or otherwise, when to engage in intimacy with a partner.