And most adults are out and dating again within a year after their divorce, sometimes dating several partners before remarriage.

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Keep in mind that you are setting an example for them as they mature and seek romantic relationships of their own.

With the US divorce rate still lingering around 50% for first marriages, many children have experienced their parents’ divorce by the time they are eighteen.

Here are some guidelines to consider concerning post-divorced dating and your children: Adjusting to the idea of dating isn’t just for parents. Constance Ahrons, author of The Good Divorce and We’re Still Family and professor emeritus at University Southern California, recently completed a 20 year longitudinal study on children of divorce.

She found that the young children she studied worried about how their parent’s dating process was going to affect them.

It goes without saying that they should not meet a new partner for the first time when he or she is about to move in.

Prepare the children in advance that they will be meeting someone who is important to you.

Children between the ages 5 and 10 were more possessive of their mother than older children.

Leah Klungness, co-author of The Complete Single Mother, states that post-divorce dating can be stressful for children.

Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.

Your attitudes and behaviors on dating will be a model for your children.

Encourage them to express their feelings, but don’t ask their permission.