Try as he might, the 60-year-old fabulous guy can’t measure up to her expectations because she’s looking for a man who doesn’t exist.

She gets stuck in affairs with men who never commit, and it’s often the nice guys who are interested in her who bear the brunt of her hurt and anger.

) Just like we can meet the same types of guy over and over, men can do the same with women.

he Scaredy Cat has been emotionally wounded by men in the past, and she can’t let go of it.

She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.

The Wow Me Woman is a midlife gal who still thinks that excitement is the key to judging if a guy is a good match. Men sense her quick judgment, which leaves them feeling deflated, unattractive and powerless.

She’s looking for her guy to be interesting, keep her laughing, ask her all about herself, and give her butterflies…all on the first date. That man then makes a poor impression (understandably), and the date is chalked up to another “he just wasn’t right for me” experience.

She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.” The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.

When he passes those tests or shows he has feelings for her, she questions it and might up the ante.

The Sexpot offers herself up on the first date and is offended if her date doesn’t partake. Relationship-minded men may also say “yes” even though they may feel somewhat emasculated or turned off by her aggressiveness.

(They are men, after all.) She won’t get a call from either of these guys and forever wonder why since she thinks she gave him what he wants.

The Wow Me Woman is often single for a very, very long time.

The Bitter Gal is angry — usually about everything, but especially about men. A guy never has a chance, even he is the nicest guy in the world and really likes her.

In the following days I’m going to give you some of their stories of dating after 40 and relationships.