There are benefits to passive behavior and communication that make it a problem in families, the workplace, and other interactions.I want to share with you the deep reasons behind why people avoid “sticking up for themselves” and many other passive behaviors in this article.Overtime, occasional passive behavior shapes into a stringent passive personality.

The teacher at a parent-teacher interview says to the child’s parents that the child is nice and quiet.

A young boy is asked what he wants for dinner, but his brothers and sisters interrupt him by saying what they want.

Parents, teachers, and adults in general are partly responsible for passive behavior and communication in children.

At a young age and continually in life, adults condition passive people to continue submissive behavior through verbal rewards.

A habitual crier can be more manipulative than an aggressor.

So far you have seen the beneficial reasons for passive behavior and communication.Rarely are they truly happy with what the other person wants.While they say “I’m happy with whatever you want”, the truth of the matter is their decision (or indecision) comes from a fear of disapproval. Virgina Satir, the mother of family therapy, coined the term “People-Pleaser” to describe individuals obsessed with making others happy.Other people fight for the person, which often gets them what they want.Some people laugh, get angry, or ignore an aggressive person, but when someone cries, most people stop what they’re doing to give the crying person what they want to wipe away their tears.Passiveness, otherwise known as submissiveness, is the opposite to aggression. Passive communication involves “keeping under the radar”, “not sticking up for yourself”, saying yes when you really want to say no, and overly “selfless behaviors”.