’” — Kristen, 27 The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.

Further, exactly how much should you say about yourself in this message?

The Common-Sense Approach Here are three tips that may increase your chances of a reply to your first contact message: What the Research Says A study conducted by Schöndienst and Dang-Xuan (2011) examined which style of first contact message was most likely to receive a reply.

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You’ve found a dating site you want to use, and you’ve created a profile, complete with your most flattering photos.

The next stage is either to sit and wait to be contacted by a potential date, or to look through the site and proactively start sending messages to potential dates yourself.

A lot of you are self-conscious about the fact that you’re on a dating site.

But obviously if she’s on the site too, you’re both in the same boat.

Even relatively impersonal responses such as simply saying "no, thank you," with no explanation are considered acceptable.