Dating down looks
) but I’m pretty sure that what I’m looking for in a partner is kind of simple: someone I’m attracted to, who is supportive, who loves me, and who I have fun with.
It might sound like settling, but the fact of the matter is that chemistry controls so much in terms of those we date and sleep with that, though I may know some men who are perhaps more intellectually compatible with me, I’m sad to say that I don’t want to have sex with them.
In truth, I have a lot of decidedly unintellectual interests, such as "Real Housewives" and eyeliner, and I don’t want some smarty-pants getting all judgy on my personal fun. I’m not talking about choosing someone who you can feel intellectually superior to in order to boost your ego, I’m talking about choosing men for different reasons than intellectual compatibility.
Especially when it comes to the topic of feminism, I have no real expectation that the men I date be able to engage with the ideology or topics I study and write about on the level I do.
To be honest, at the end of the day, often the last thing I want to do is to talk about the thing that I’ve been talking about all day.
I value my partners for particular reasons, my friends and family for others.
I think, honestly, that this is what will lead us to have fulfilling lives -– a variety of different relationships that provide us with different insights and experiences.
I was having a drink with a friend the other night and we were talking about how, naturally, if you're an intelligent woman, the pool of men who are your intellectual equals is small.
Does this mean women must resort to "dating down," in an intellectual sense? I don't think I'm a genius, but I'm not going to pretend that I'm dumb, either.
The study also found we tend to pair up with people whose facial features have a similar level of symmetry – a sign of beauty – to our own.
Dr Burriss said: ‘Are all men trying to go out with Anne Hathaway or Angelina Jolie, or do you really want to be with someone at the same level of attractiveness as yourself?
They may also have the confidence to leave behind relationships that have run their course.