When you read other people's profiles, don't make assumptions or rule them out because of one thing they wrote.

If you don't want to be alone—maybe Samantha does—that's a dangerous message."Gottlieb: "We say, I'm a writer, but he doesn't read!

I'm creative.' But people can be creative in different ways, and the fact that he doesn't read the same books that you do, well, maybe he wants someone who he can talk about the baseball game with but you're not that person. You're not going to share every single interest, and that's okay.

Maybe he's not smooth initially or in big groups, but he is one-on-one.

These are the kind of people who when you're 35, 45, 55, that you'll be happy with when you're married, and the guy who is super charming at the party and has the crowd of women around him, maybe he's not going to make as good of a husband. That guy is going to be judgmental and picky, and who wants that?

Whether it's with men or sweaters…if you just think you have unlimited options for the rest of your life, of course you'll keep looking, who wouldn't?

"Gottlieb: "The guys I interviewed for the book said women judge them so much.

But if you feel like it hasn't been working and you're wondering why you haven't met Mr. It's less about what you wear or do on a date than it is about having healthier standards. ' [Men don't say that to each other.] We are good catches, but we also are human and we're not perfect and somebody's going to have to put up with us for the rest of his life. My dating coach said, write down all the reasons a guy would not want to date you.

Right yet, think about looking for the qualities that are important. You can still have the fairy tale, but it will look different from what the media portrays as the fairy tale.…The same unrealistic expectations we have about dating, we have about marriage, too. At first I didn't think I had that many things, because you think you're a pretty good catch. Gottlieb: "You walk into a store and you know you want a sweater and it has to go with this outfit and it has to be this color, and you'd like to be on sale.

Best to leave your glass half full and your plate empty(ish).