According to a Slate article entitled "How to Cure a Sex Addict," the purpose of such treatments is not to remove sex from one's life entirely (thank goodness!

) but to put it in its proper place, which, I'd argue, is going to differ vastly for everyone.

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For just $5,400, you can spend six weeks making sure you go without sex or erotica, thanks to a program put on by Steve Gallagher, who believes that "No Christian should be looking at that stuff in the first place," he said.

"If I'm looking at pictures of naked women, my life is not right with God." By that logic, I imagine anyone who's ever conjured up a fantasy about someone outside their relationship is guilty.

According to the site, it was "[d]eveloped in cooperation with hospitals, treatment programs, private therapists, and community groups, the SAST provides a profile of responses which help to discriminate between addictive and non-addictive behavior." Questions range from "Have you regularly purchased romantic novels or sexually explicit magazines? Let's take the ridiculously vague question, "Do you hide some of your sexual behaviors from others?

" and "Have you regularly engaged in sadomasochistic behavior? " I'd bet that anyone answering honestly would say a big, fat yes to that one.

In the meantime, let's separate our prudish judgments about other people's sex lives from a true problem.

Rachel Kramer Bussel is an author and editor of over a dozen erotic anthologies, most recently Hide and Seek and Crossdressing.

Conversely, I don't think those with low libidos, like memoirist Joan Sewell, author of I'd Rather Eat Chocolate, should be made to feel sexually incompetent, nor should those with bigger libidos be punished or made to feel like freaks.

This isn't about sexual appetite so much as feeling in control of your sexuality, however you choose to exert that control.

" Who knew that online dating was a precursor to sex addiction?

As it turns out, I don't meet the criteria for sex addiction, but as a person who cares about the state of human sexuality, I'm appalled at the sex-negative tone of this supposedly scientific, doctor-approved quiz.

If sex controls you, most of the professionals seem to agree, then you could very well be a sex addict.