Basically, a heck of a lot of women have had the disclosure chat with their partners, and lived to tell the tale. Pick your moment to have the conversation about your mental health.

Specifically, avoid loud, crowded places (and resist the urge to overdo the Dutch Courage first.) “I'd recommend doing it privately and to be frank,” Dr. “Start with, ‘There is something you need to know about me if we are going to continue to date.’ Then tell the person your diagnosis, what it shows up as—the symptoms—and how you are managing it, e.g., with therapy and/ or medication.

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Also, a disclosure conversation can be an opportunity to bring you closer together, as the National Association for Mental Illness (NAMI) points out.

Your partner's reaction will probably surprise you. You might fear rejection or lack of acceptance, but research shows most people who disclose are pleasantly surprised.

And then ask if the other person has anything similar to disclose.” According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, “It’s helpful to have books or online reading about your disorder readily available for them to look at.” Your new partner may have questions, and those materials can help them understand what you’re dealing with.

No, the discussion doesn’t have to happen on your first date (unless you’re okay with that, of course.) In terms of exact timing, “This is a judgment call that will depend on the current mental status,” Dr. “If someone had anorexia in high school, this is serious information but perhaps not currently relevant,” she adds.

So if you’re living with a mental health condition and wondering how to discuss it in your new relationship, here’s what the experts want you to keep in mind.

A recent survey asked more than 2,100 people about their experiences regarding dating and mental illness.

So, as the researchers point out: “It’s best to disclose a mental health disorder before experiencing an acute episode that could bring it into the open.” Support from loved ones is often an important part of recovery and chances are, disclosing your mental health struggle will help you get that support you need.

The research showed that women with obsessive compulsive disorder (78.1 percent), anxiety (76.6 percent), and depression (75.8 percent) were most likely to be receive support from partners.

After discussing plot points and cinematography, I take a breath and casually toss out “Oh, yeah I wanted to mention, just to let you know.

I’ve been dealing with…” (I remind myself: do not say ‘diagnosed’ – don’t want to make it too official), “with depression.

This is part four of what happened to me once I was out of the psych ward and started dating. “No Mu,” Sagara rifles into the phone, “Victoria’s acting really strange.