If you are dating a woman with kids, you probably aren’t doing it just for fun. You’ve got to have the talk.”I bring that up because that is a classic case where a single guy began dating a woman with a child, and had so much to learn and go through.

You most likely really, really like the woman (or love her) and you are smart enough to realize that with her, comes her children. Same is the case with Scott Trick, Divorced Guy Grinning’s guest blogger.

I'm not saying you get to send them to their rooms or take away their phones.

But sometimes they need to be told to CALM DOWN, STOP DOING THAT, ENOUGH!

If this were "my kid," we would have been doing something else.

Set the boundary with the boyfriend first -- in private.

Because you aren't the parent, you get to do the easy disciplining, such as reminding them to eat over the plate because CRUMBS ARE GETTING EVERYWHERE, reminding them to go take a bath because it's bedtime already GEEZ HURRY UP, and hollering HEY STOP PULLING THE CAT'S TAIL when you hear the wee feline screech in pain.

When you date someone who has a child, you're dating that child, too.

I was afraid of p*ssing off my boyfriend, but he was fine with it.

The boy was a little pins-and-needles with me for a few hours afterward, but he soon got over it and life went back to normal.

Here is Scott’s guest post that gives us a glance at the transition from single guy to married guy with step kids, and all the wonderful things that can happen if you are open-minded, have insight into what the kids are going through, and just give it time. But if you keep in mind what the kids went through, you will have a better understanding and be a great step parent.