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They are more likely to offer and expect verbal support accompanied by intense eye contact.Researchers have found that men are often over-stimulated by this kind of communication and may withdraw (Gottman and Krokoff 1989).It is the way a person expresses “I want to feel connected to you,” although it may have an endless variety of forms and content.
Marriage practitioners have begun to explore the implications of this for supporting couple relationships (Love and Stosny 2007).
Rather than teaching couples that communication is primarily about verbal expression, some are now arguing that the focus should be on supporting “deep emotional connection [as] a personal choice” (Love and Stosny 2007, 199) that is created and maintained by communication, although not necessarily or exclusively with words.
Family Life Specialist, University of Illinois Extension Associate Professor, Human and Community Development University of Illinois 2006 Christopher Hall, 904 W.
In fact, the emotional layer of communication may be one of the most important for couples.
It might make a wife feel differently if her husband says with a beaming smile and a catch in his voice, “Aren’t you beautiful” than if he sneers in an ugly moment, “Aren’t you beautiful.” A lot of what partners communicate to each other does not come out in words.
Communication is fundamental to human interaction and intimate couple relationships, in part because communication is a tool for knowing or emotionally connecting with one another.
Humans have developed particularly elaborate verbal and nonverbal means for communication as well intricate rules for how this kind of connection is accomplished.
Communication requires a set of common symbols, ranging from verbal and written to the rich set of paralinguistic and emotive markers that people use in their interactions. Take as an example, the simple phrase “Aren’t you beautiful.” The tone and expression with which it is uttered matter tremendously.
Gottman and De Claire (2001) argue “[m]aybe it’s not the depth of intimacy in conversations that matters.