), he defended his company by saying, "I would rather see people pursue [an affair] and stay true to their families." His wife was more ambivalent. I can’t take on the burden of everybody else’s lives," she offered.

Both conceded they would be "devastated" if the other used its services.

As is customary for women on Ashley Madison, she gets bombarded by suitors, then rejects about 90 percent of those she meets.

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"I find myself living my life in the third person and deciding whether it’d be a good story." She takes a sip of beer.

"I want it to be dramatic."Since then, she’s averaged one or two new men per year, with a few women sprinkled in, and in the digital age has supplemented her search with Ashley Madison, Craigslist, and Cougar Life.

I She tells me that she’s been corporeally disloyal in relationships since she started having sex at 16 and has don’t-ask, don’t-tell permission to frolic with other lovers from her "nerd" husband of nearly two decades, with whom she has several children.

She hoped marriage would change her cheating ways, but two years later found herself straying—as much out of a lust for life as for flesh.

Megan prefers younger men whom she can think of as her "boy toys—my playthings." She asks how old I am.

I tell her 33, and she points at me and says, "That’s my perfect age." Later she clasps her hand over mine for a few seconds when I make a joke.

I’m carpet bombing them with the same boilerplate message, suggesting, with unsurpassed creativity and seductiveness, that we get together for a drink.

I’m on Ashley Madison.com, the behemoth of extramarital-dating sites, whose controversial slogan is "Life is short. But you probably don’t know anyone on it—or at least anyone who admits to being on it.

She’s around 40, wearing casual, loose-fitting clothes and a pleasant smile. It is, though—if her identity were somehow unmasked, it could torpedo her high-powered career: She’s worked for one of the most prominent political figures in the country and nearly ended up in Obama’s administration.