“If he hits you, that means he loves you,” quotes Diana her mother’s saying, the old-fashioned Slavic belief, which is the reason why domestic violence in Russia is still widely underreported — as well as most other forms of physical assault, making it a “norm” rather than a crime.

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The downside of the powerful male taking what he wants?

Bruk admits that Russian men still follow the egotistical mentality that “sex is a favor that women do for men”, which means that if a girl enjoys sex, she is looked at as a nymphomaniac.

“I love (and hate) dating Russian men“, states Diana, and then goes on to explain why.

“The macho guys from my home country leave me torn between my feminist beliefs and my sexual desires.” Her story begins with the description of a fight for “her honour” by a Russian boyfriend, because in the midst of a drunken party, another guy tried to touch her.

Bruk also expresses her surprise at “disintegration of male hygiene and work ethics”, citing the poor gender ratios as the reason.

From the same book, rape is something that “happens”, and is accepted as a fact of life, not a social problem, she recounts. The roots are in the hunter-prey dating model, prescribing to males to push to the limit.

The liberal arts graduate decided to explore her homeland by living there, and temporarily moved to Russia in 2010.

To provide for herself, she was teaching English in St. “The first thing that you’ll notice when you get to Russia is that the women are astoundingly beautiful and immaculately presented”, she says.

“It is a truth universally acknowledged that a woman wants a man who’s a gentleman at dinner and an animal in bed. This the Russian man understands,” writes the New York feminist born in the USSR.