Jessimae: The whole dating thing has changed, and there’s so much accessibility to everybody now that the idea of chivalry, really, is kind of deteriorating because girls are more easily accessible to guys, and because of men don’t have to try as hard to win as you over.It’s kind of creating this generation of men that don’t really know about manners because they don’t need to develop manners because girls are just laying the cat out on the field to be had.

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Even if you don’t do online dating, these principles apply to any writing or storytelling you do, in person or in text. Here’s how: The classic writing advice “show, don’t tell” also applies to online dating.

For example, look at these two profiles: 1) I’m the class clown among my friends.

Not just like going out for drinks and dinner, like him actually putting some thought into it, even if it’s just something like apple picking, or something that’s like an activity.

Jessimae: People who are rude to people for no reason. This is the thing: there’s this generation of sloppy dudes.

I know because you leave your Magnum condoms littered all over our shared bathroom. Because I used a story, it wasn’t qualifying or approval seeking, and girls pick that information up from the details.

(Though this example borders on being to overtly sexual. A guy who asked me for online dating advice had this on his profile: A girl reading that knows it’s probably bullshit, but it’d make her laugh, show her he’s funny, and that he has interesting experiences to share.

It’s hot when a dude, for some reason, knows about wine. Put away your smelly boxing gloves, your dirty shorts, and the cheese that’s crushed into your counter from two weeks ago when you and your boys went out drinking until five o’clock in the morning. If you’re having a girl over the house for the first time, make sure your toilet is clean, not disgusting.

Guys’ bathrooms are always the most disgusting thing. Plan a surprise and be like, "Hey, I wanted you to think I forgot your birthday, but we’re going away on vacation!

Jessimae: If there are accessories in your cocktail, I’m probably going to walk away.