The woman goes through self-esteem issues and starts to wonder why she is settling for less than what she deserves.If the man is not a total ass, he will feel the guilt every time he looks in his wife’s eyes, and he will try to ease the guilt by taking her out on a date, or suggesting a family vacation, etc.Building a life with someone with constant progression and growth is necessary for a healthy relationship.

The man more than likely plays into this often times telling her things such as “I wish I could have met you years ago”.

This makes her feel as if the only thing keeping them apart is the ring on his finger.

The cycle of the love affair with a married man almost always ends in broken hearts, hurt, and wasted time.

Sure you have those once in a million times where the man actually leaves his wife for another, but for the most part, it is a script for adultery disaster.

”, and perceives this as being put first (the one thing that women want to feel in a relationship).

By this time, she is more than likely already aware of the fact that he is unhappy in his marriage and the more time she spends with him she makes sure to plea her case as to why he should be with her instead.

The love affair with the married man starts with a man who married for the wrong reasons and thus never truly felt fulfilled in his commitment to the wife.

They probably have kids together and that is the only bond they share.

However, filling the void may backfire on him, as the relationship may escalate from occasional lunches during work hours or early dinners disguised as “working late”, to the more intimate texting and instant messages all night long.

This is hook line and sinker for the woman, as she automatically thinks, “oh, he wants to talk to me so badly that he’s risking getting caught!

Human nature finds it easier to blame than to accept shame.